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I know someone who suffered a loss today and it has brought up a lot of feelings from a past loss. She came to me asking why this is. Among many things, I assured her that it is very common when you lose someone to re-visit past deaths. Of course, you think of these people all the time, but you're probably not so sad as you are when you're facing more death.

When faced with death upon death, it's hard not to question why, why people have to go and why there has to be so much suffering, but it's just like child birth. There's so much pain, but then the baby's out and there's joy. Once in Heaven, there's only peace.

There's a poem that says "death is our wedding with eternity" and I like that because it's like a beginning instead of an end.

Here is that poem by Rumi:

Our death is our wedding with eternity.
What is the secret? "God is One."
The sunlight splits when entering the windows of the house.
This multiplicity exists in the cluster of grapes;
It is not in the juice made from the grapes.
For he who is living in the Light of God,
The death of the carnal soul is a blessing.
Regarding him, say neither bad nor good,
For he is gone beyond the good and the bad.
Fix your eyes on God and do not talk about what is invisible,
So that he may place another look in your eyes.
It is in the vision of the physical eyes
That no invisible or secret thing exists.
But when the eye is turned toward the Light of God
What thing could remain hidden under such a Light?
Although all lights emanate from the Divine Light
Don't call all these lights "the Light of God";
It is the eternal light which is the Light of God,
The ephemeral light is an attribute of the body and the flesh.
...Oh God who gives the grace of vision!
The bird of vision is flying towards You with the wings of desire.