Blog Psychologist

Ever wonder why the people who already believe in ghosts and aliens are the only ones to see ghosts and aliens? Now don't get me wrong, positivity is a great thing. However, I like to think of myself as a realist. Before you go buying into Oprah's drug of choice, The Secret, consider what I'm about to tell you.

First, "The Secret" isn't a secret at all. I've actually followed this and believed it for a very long time. Does the idea that the messages you send out into the universe determine what is delivered to you in your life work? Yes, it does. I know because it has worked for me.

For instance, before I met my husband, I dated a lot but never had what I'd call a successful relationship. Basically, I got bored quickly and moved on easily. I didn't get attached, but I longed to have that connection, as we all do. Then, I decided that it was my thinking that was holding me back. I didn't believe that I could have a long term relationship because I didn't believe there was a guy good enough to have one with. I thought guys were all dogs at heart. Then, when I changed my thinking and started to believe that there were still some decent men out there, guess what? I found one!

So there it is, positivity works. It's the why that's the question. Was it that I finally found a good guy because I sent the message to the universe? Or was it that there were good guys before, even guys that I had dated, but it wasn't until I believed it, that I saw it. Then, you have to ask yourself if it's real.

If I believe in aliens and I see a UFO, does it make it a UFO, or is it a regular plane that I have decided is something more. The same goes in the other direction. What if I explain away the UFO as a regular plane because I don't believe in UFOs?

Of course, no one really asks these questions because when you're an optimist, you don't care about the why, how and what of it all. You're happy because things are good, or at least you perceive them that way because you put a positive spin on everything around you. It's true what they say you know, ignorance is bliss.